Tag: Holidays 2016

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When You Want to Make Family Time Special


Don’t pin your happiness on expecting any day or occasion to be special the way you planned. The day the turkey caught on fire will always bring back a unique memory of the day!

Do create rituals or carry on meaningful ones, which anchor our lives in the rhythm of the years. Share memories of special times with your family and friends.

How to Make Special Family Memories

Often, families find great comfort in circling back to familiar celebrations and traditions.

For example, I know of one family that celebrated a decades-long Christmas Eve tradition. They prepared a dinner of bratwurst and knockwurst in honor of their German heritage.

But when the children grew up and married, the tradition ran into trouble. One man’s wife, so it happened, could not come to love German sausage her husband had enjoyed since childhood.

Adapting Family Traditions

How do you honor a beloved tradition, when people don’t see them the same way?

The answer will be different for each couple. But the steps to the solution that … Come Read the Rest

holiday stress management

Holiday Stress Management Tips When There Aren’t Enough Hours In the Day

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  • Don’t short yourself on downtime, so that you are grumpy and can’t enjoy the season.
  • Do find ways to catch up on rest, get your downtime, and help yourself relax.

Holiday travel and changes in our daily routine can disrupt important things we do to rest our minds, restore our spirits, and get enough sleep. Even if there are things we really want to do, taking care of our emotional well-being means slowing down to think about what we need to feel good over the course of several days.

Of course we need sleep to restore our body’s vital energy for living each day.

But there are many other valuable ways to rest.

9 Brief Stress Management Tips

Restful, restorative things we do, maybe without realizing we need to do them, include

  1. Taking time for reflection or our mindfulness practice
  2. Getting 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night
  3. Taking a nap
  4. Listening to music, humming, singing, or playing an instrument
  5. Exercising, be it a walk, jog, or yoga
  6. Having regular meals
  7. Pausing for a
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holiday connections

Holiday Cards and Connections: When You Want to Renew Old Ties

  • Don’t broadly send holiday cards and hope for the best.
  • Do give the gift of time and connection. Consider calling people you haven’t been in touch with lately.

People have a wide range of feelings about exchanging holiday cards and annual news letters. One couple explains they welcome getting holiday cards and family letters “because to have something to open that’s not a bill is just nice.” They like especially seeing pictures of children they haven’t seen in a long time.

Others admit that receiving a copy of a letter listing each family member’s accomplishments seems like bragging and it “drives them nuts.”

What Has Meaning For You?

Underneath whatever the level of detail or pride, is the message that someone is still thinking about us, and cares enough to reach out across the miles.

It usually means a lot to a person to be remembered in some way, even during the holidays. Think about what another person’s offer of connection means to you, especially if it’s unexpected. If you haven’t been in touch with … Come Read the Rest

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Holiday Spending: Talking with Your Partner about Money

#7. When You’re Really Tempted to Splurge

From: 11 Holiday Stresses, and What to Do Instead.

  • Don’t spend more than you can afford.
  • Do talk with each other about what giving gifts means, and about the budget, before shopping.

If we want to really make a holiday special, our big plans may well involve spending more money.

Some couples find holiday spending a recurring source of conflict, especially if they have different styles and attitudes toward money. One may insist on steering clear of credit, the other wants to splurge. If you don’t know how to talk these things through, you may end up feeling resentful, angry, or not listened to, instead of good about your holiday together.

Mindfulness Helps Reveal What’s Important

Mindfulness is key. What if you could look at your disagreement, not as a reason to argue or find fault with each other, but as an opportunity to share and learn about yourselves, and what is most important to you?

What would happen if you agreed to look deeper into the … Come Read the Rest